Are you dating someone who is extremely busy? Do you want more time with them but every time you ask, you feel as though you are annoying them or asking too much? Being with someone who has limited time can feel very lonely sometimes. Here are some tips so you can make a decision whether or not this relationship is for you.
DISCUSS HIS SCHEDULE
Make time to discuss both of your schedules and pencil time together in. Don’t assume you can just drop in whenever. Make sure you are both on the same page and pick times where you can both relax and enjoy the time together. Planning is key!
DO BORING STUFF TOGETHER AND MAKE IT EXCITING
Cleaning the house? Doing the gardening ? Gym? Make every day jobs an excuse to spend time together. Just maybe keep the IKEA furniture assembly to a minimum.
AVOID BEING NEEDY
Nobody likes a needy partner, especially when they have a lot on their plate already. Have your own hobbies, don’t flood him with calls and texts and respect his boundaries. Don’t assume something is wrong if he doesn’t text you for a few hours or a day.
RESPECT HIS TIME
He may need to allocate time to himself and his friends and family too. Be respectful and understanding of this, he will really appreciate it.
REEVALUATE THE RELATIONSHIP
Are you guys really compatible if you can’t spend time together? Maybe you have different goals and priorities? Do you feel like maybe he’s just not that into you? If it’s really making you feel down and lonely, maybe reassess whether or not this relationship is for you.
KEEP YOURSELF BUSY AND FIND YOUR OWN HOBBIES
By far the best thing to do regardless of your relationship status, is to have your own thing going on. Find a hobby, start a side biz, volunteer – the possibilities are endless. Don’t sit around waiting for a man to be ready to see you, go out and explore the world for yourself. You will find once you are happy and fulfilled alone, you may not even want his attention anymore and you will attract someone who is a better fit for you!
The last point is my favourite one because I always tell my clients to do this regardless or whether they are partnered or not. You can’t expect anyone else to be the source of your happiness. Create happiness for yourself and the right partner will come to you