A lot of women who come to me fresh out of a divorce ask me the same thing, “Will anyone want to date me as a single mum?” and I say – hell yes! In my experience I have not had any issues with dating as a mum of 3. It’s been 6 years since my divorce and I am now engaged to a 32 year old tall drink ‘o water who has no kids – and he loves it (don’t you babe?!)
Dating a single mum is ideal for most men, if they really think about it. Why? Let me break it down for you..
WE’RE NOT IN A DESPERATE RUSH TO GET MARRIED OR HAVE KIDS
If you had asked me after my horrible marriage and divorce situation if I would ever get married again, I would have spat my coffee in your face, taken another sip and spat that one into your face too. Then I would take another sip and spray it all over whoever else was in the vicinity. Hell.No.
I was never going to get married ever again after my experience – I was definitely in no rush to have another relationship let alone marriage. Pffttt…and as for kids? I already had 3. If there’s one thing I do know, women with kids are METICULOUS with their birth control. Women who have ‘been there done that’ are not looking to settle down, which takes the pressure off men and allows them to relax a bit more about it all.
WE ARE INDEPENDENT
*Finger snap* Single mums have their shit sorted. We are self-sufficient, financially independent, have our own lives, our own house and our own minds. We don’t NEED no man. If we are hanging out with a man it’s because we genuinely like his company and who he is, not what he can do for us – we already have friends that can fix our sinks. And no, I really mean sinks.
WE DONT PLAY GAMES AND KNOW WHAT WE WANT
We literally do not have time for that shit. If we aren’t interested, we will tell them. We know what we want, and what we don’t want (usually thanks to our previous marriage). If we don’t see a future then we will nip it in the bud straight away.
WE ARE GOOD IN BED
Chances are, our sex life has been lack-lustre, if not non-existent over the last couple of years – a bad marriage will do that. So we are feeling confident and ready to get back in the bedroom and we come prepared with a lot of fantasies, toys and excitement! We’re older, more open to experimentation and put 100% effort in, because it’s all about us and the short time we have away from the kids to do this. So lets do it right 😉
So you see? It’s actually a much better choice for the man who wants a genuine connection with no expectations or games to choose a single mum. Chance are in your 30’s and 40’s – even late 20’s! – you’re not going to find someone without kids or some kind of ‘baggage’. That’s what makes humans so beautifully intricate and interesting. Your worth does not decrease because you’re a single mum – it increases in my mind.